It’s a question that comes back to me every now and again: would I have been better off, say in the past ten years, had I lived the life of a recluse? I don’t mean a proper recluse, who lives on a mountain and eschews interpersonal contact altogether, but one that spends most of his time on his own. Thinking, reading, writing. Enjoying the quietness in his head. And not all that fuss that involves other people, whom I never really got anyway, but whom I spent so much energy on: trying to understand them and, mostly, trying to make them understand me in a way that I thought was the right way to be understood.
The question came to me again when I read the latest novel of J. M. Coetzee and started to develop a fascination with the man’s personal life. A scientist without being blinded by the Absolute Truth of Science; always the right points of view when it comes to politics (anti-apartheid, anti-Vietnam); a good writer too. (Which might be a personal opinion, but they don’t give the Nobel Prize to AN Other who can hold a pencil, do they now?). He also won the Booker Prize twice, but never went to England to pick up the award. And, it is said, he used to attend dinner parties of his former university, without uttering a single word. Hey, that’s me! Or, actually, that could have been me, had I been more talented. Not?
Of course, the answer to my question is: no. I shouldn’t have been a recluse. Firstly, because I lack the self-discipline that differentiates a recluse from a sad loner. I have been a sad loner at times, mind you, when I spent my days collecting records –and talking about them on the web– in a Hornby-ish way. Secondly, because I don’t think I’m modest and patient enough to not speak up when I don’t really have something to say; although it would be good if I possessed such qualities. And thirdly, and most importantly, because in the end I do like other people and their companion. I just find them complicated.
That is not to say, of course, that I couldn’t have done quite a few things differently in the past ten years. And that I could (and should) have least made a bigger effort at things too. But well, if I had, what thoughts would I have to keep me up at night?
Said book, by the way, is called Diary of a Bad Year and wasn’t published until very recently. I thought it was pretty good. If only because, to me, it asked the same question I asked above; and came up with the same answer as well.
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